Stop Hitting & Yelling: How Dogs Learn — And What Works Instead

Behavior • Training • Welfare

Dogs learn best when they feel safe. Calm teaching is best; fear and force cause mistrust and trauma that can last a lifetime. When we hit or yell, the dog’s stress goes up fast—stress chemicals rise, heart rate climbs, and the dog shifts into “survival mode.” None of this teaches a better choice like “sit,” “come” or “walk politely.”

The big idea (short & clear)

• Hitting and yelling do not teach what to do; they only teach fear and confusion.
• Fear blocks learning. A scared brain is busy surviving, not thinking.
• Kind, clear teaching works better and lasts longer. Reward the behaviour you want.
• Manage → Teach → Reinforce is the simple formula that changes behaviour.

Why hitting & yelling backfire

Punishment raises stress hormones rapidly. Dogs may freeze, run or fight. They may also stop offering warning signals, making future bites more unpredictable. If you’ve used force before, don’t feel hopeless—dogs are forgiving when we change our approach and stay consistent.

Common fallout from punishment

• Fear of people (especially hands, tall bodies or fast movement)
• More anxiety and pacing, whining or guarding
• Shut‑down behaviour (learned helplessness) or sudden defensive snapping
• Hiding warning signs—the dog stops growling, then “bites without warning” later

What works instead (3‑part plan)

1. Manage: Prevent mistakes while the dog is learning. Examples: use gates, a crate space the dog likes, pick up food left on counters and leash near doors.
2. Teach: Show the dog what to do instead. Lure or capture the behaviour you want (sit, settle on a mat, look at you) and name it.
3. Reinforce: Pay the good choice. Use tiny treats, praise, play or access to life rewards (going outside, greeting a friend, sniffing a bush).

Teach it step by step (example: jumping on guests)

1. Manage: Put your dog on leash before guests enter. Have treats ready.
2. Teach: Ask for a sit before the door opens. Mark “yes” and pay the sit.
3. Reinforce: If paws stay on the floor, the guest greets. If jumping starts, guest turns away, you take a step back and ask for sit again. Repeat calm greet → reward.
4. Practice short sessions with one person first. Then add different people and locations.
5. Be consistent: Every greeting follows the same rule: “Paws down = hello happens.”

Quick plan for leash pulling

• Use a front‑clip harness (gentle steering).
• Stand still the moment the leash goes tight. When your dog looks back or slack returns, say “yes,” move forward and reward next to your leg.
• Repeat “tight → stop / slack → go.” Dogs learn that loose leash makes the walk continue.
• Do 5–10 minute sessions. Add distractions later.

Want a full walking guide? See Mastering the Walk.

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When your dog has big feelings

Shouting makes big feelings bigger. Instead, try this:

• Pause your body. Soften your voice. Breathe out.
• Give a simple cue they know (e.g., “sit” or “touch”). Mark “yes,” reward.
• Guide to a calm spot (mat, crate they like, quiet room). Offer a chew.
• End the practice session early if your dog is too wound up. Try again later at an easier level.

Troubleshooting quick list

• Barking at the window: Block the view, give a stuffed Kong or sniffy toy, reward quiet.
• Chewing shoes: Put shoes away; give legal chews; trade calmly for a treat.
• Stealing food: Clear counters; teach “go to mat”; pay for staying on the mat.
• Resource guarding: Don’t grab. Trade up calmly. See Resource Guarding.
• Separation stress: Slow practice being alone. See Separation Anxiety.

Kids & visitors: simple rules

• Let the dog choose contact. No hugging; pet under the chin or chest if the dog approaches.
• No yelling or chasing. Quiet games (scatter treats, find the toy) are best.
• Teach kids to “be a tree” when the dog gets jumpy—stand still, arms in, look away.

Learn the early signs of stress in our Canine Body Language primer.

When to get a professional

If you see biting risk, long‑lasting fear or your dog can’t settle, bring in help. Look for Certified Professional Dog Trainers (CCPDT), IAABC members, Fear Free Certified trainers or a veterinary behaviourist (DACVB). Good pros use rewards, management and humane plans.

Myths that cause harm

• “He knows better; he’s being stubborn.” Dogs repeat what is practiced and paid.
• “I have to be alpha.” Leadership means meeting needs, setting clear rules and teaching calmly.
• “Punishment fixes it fast.” It may stop a behaviour in the moment, but it adds fear and can create worse problems later.

Keep learning (helpful articles)

• Teaching Basic Obedience — Sit, Stay, Come, Leave‑It & Settle
• Mastering the Walk — Calm, Confident Dog Walking
• Mental Enrichment — Tired Brain, Happy Dog
• Helping a Dog Heal From Trauma
• Canine First Aid — Be Ready
• Why Some Dogs Are Labeled “Unadoptable”
• Why Cage‑Free Care Matters
• Foster & Adopter Guide
• Understanding Common Medical Issues in Rescue Dogs

Sources & Further Reading

• American Veterinary Society of Animal Behavior (AVSAB) — position statements & resources
• ASPCA — Dog Care & Training
• AVMA — Pet Owner Resources
• Pet Professional Guild — Force‑Free Guidelines
• IAABC — Find a Qualified Behavior Professional
• American College of Veterinary Behaviorists — Find a Veterinary Behaviorist

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